Nesting

Aren't we supposed to be getting the baby's room together? Right now it's somewhat a collection of cast off furniture and a pile of gifts still in their boxes. They say it's important for us to set up the room all nice nice. Why haven't we done it yet? It's on the to do list, like finding a pediatrician, etc. I think without having the big belly leading the way it's hard to realize just how soon it could be for nino/nina to arrive. We were with friends today that are having twins and for her I'm sure hardly a moment goes by that she doesn't realize the babies are coming soon. For her husband the sight of her growing larger by the day must be a powerful motivator as well. Do the hormones force you to deal with it? I'm still waiting for our hormones to kick it up a notch.

Settling in

So after the last postings bad news we've had some time to reflect. We also got another email from the agency. This time they were very apologetic. Back in May they asked us for some additional papers to clarify a few things. It took a few weeks to gather it and in the delay CRAN moved another family ahead of us. This is what the agency contact person had to say:

"adoption is such a leap of faith, and I like to believe that your child will come to you when it is supposed to happen. And one day, way into the future, you will look back and realize that you were meant to be parenting that particular child and won't be able to imagine it could have been any other way"

It's a nice idea. We're back to our orignal timeframe and  thinking about all of the stuff we can do before the wee one arrives. 

BBBBummer!

The following is an email we received from our adoption agency contact:

"I just heard from CRAN (the agency in Colombia). There is one family in front of you, so you can breathe a sigh of relief. As soon as the next family receives a referral, I will let you know. It is normally several months in between referrals. As it is now August, I believe that you might not be hearing until early 2009, after the holidays. I might be wrong so don't hold me to it but that is my best guess at this time."

Sigh of relief?! Early 2009?! What a bummer! 

Not exactly what we were told a few months ago so we're reeling a bit. I know these things are complicated. I just wish that we were never told it could be "soon". We had been preparing for early 2009 all along. The roller coaster just went on a sharp downhill and I guess we're just trying to hang on. The concept of how it's going to prepare for the unpredictability of parenthood is of little consolation on this side of the parental divide.